Friday, September 16, 2016

Luke 6:37

This time last year was a very very different time for me in my life. It's funny how the people you think have this perfect life around you are really experiencing some of the hardest times of their lives. Everyone on this planet experiences some type of trial or influential time in their lives. Everyone has the happiest of happy times and the lowest of low times. We are all so busy going through each day in our own ways no one really knows what happens behind closed doors. No one really knows how someone else is feeling inside.

I know for me over a year ago the same was true for me. Many of my friends and family thought I was fairly "normal" if that's even something true. But what they didn't know is I was dying inside and hurting and making everything in my life so much harder than it should have been or needed to be.

I am writing this not because I want everyone to know my "problems" but because I have been that person that has judged someone for the things they were doing that I didn't think they should have been doing. We are all quick to judge. We judge our family and our closest friends. We judge our neighbors and our employees but many times we don't stop and pause. We don't stop and think about what they could be going through when they leave work, or go inside their own home. We don't know the battles they face daily or the stress they are put through.

Luke 6:37 says this:
Judge not, and you will not be judged;
Condemn not, and you will not be condemned;
Forgive and you will be forgiven.

You see, everyone judges others. It's nature! We do it when we don't even realize we are doing it. But by judging someone else, it makes me no better then you. Or the person sitting next to me at a ball game. Have you ever been judged? Have you ever felt how it feels to be looked down on?

I can tell you that I have judged. I have judged people, family and friends for doing the exact same things I have done in my life that I was so quickly to judge on. I have never been very biblical. I believe in God and I pray every night or driving in my car on the way to work, but I don't plaster my beliefs for everyone else to see. It's never really been my nature.

But I lost most of everything I had over a year ago. The decisions I made at the time were part of why I lost most everything, but much of that was from judgement against me and the decisions I had made. People didn't understand why I was doing what I was doing. But at the same time, I really didn't understand why I was doing those things either.

James 4:11-12
11 Do not speak evil against one another, brothers.[a] The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. 12 There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?

There is only that should be judging and I am pretty sure last time I checked none of us on this earth are that person. Verse after verse talks about how judging someone else is wrong in the bible. So why do we choose to do it to the ones who are suppose to mean the most to us? I know I am guilty of it. I know the person I am and the beliefs I have are good, genuine beliefs. I was to do what is right in Gods eyes every day. Does this mean I will fail? Absolutely! 

I ask anyone who reads this to just do this. Next time your faced with a situation where you are judging someone else for the decisions they are making or the actions they are taking in their life that you don't agree with, remember you have done all of those same things to. Stop and think about just being a positive influence for that friend or family member. Pray for their guidance and wisdom to see what right and wrong. I guarantee that will mean more to them then any judging you may do. 

People need support when they are going through hard times. Supporting someone who you don't agree with is hard. It's testing. But leaving them and abandoning them is even harder. I lost almost all of my friends. Or maybe the people I thought were my friends. People judged me and are probably still judging me for the decisions I made a year ago. Just remember I am the one that has to own up to the decisions I made one day when I meet the great man upstairs. Not you! 

What have I learned through all of this? I will try not to judge others. I will try not to give up on those I care about when they are doing things I disagree with. Because I know they just simply need a few people in their corner to pull them out. And pray! Because, well that great big book of really difficult words is never ever incorrect!